Window into South China
Have you ever wondered what the most important practice is?
We asked Teacher Wei for his advice.
Here is his reply: “The practice of Zhineng Qigong creates no conflict in family relationships. Also there is no conflict with our religious beliefs.
If people really understand the practice of ZQG well, it can actually help us to make our relationships better. Because ZQG can promote a healthy life situation and develop our wisdom and abilities. If we become stronger and wiser, of course we will handle family relationships better. We can help our wives, husbands and children. We can help more people.
So those of us who have this fear of conflict, this comes from a misunderstanding.
If we think: ‘I practice Qigong, I need to leave my home, I need to separate from my partner, husband or wife, or children, I avoid them…’, maybe some people worry like this. Perhaps for some people these ideas are like in some religions, where people leave and join a Temple.
Of course on a certain level we discover our ability is not yet enough and we want to practice to resolve our health problems. At this time if we focus on improving ourselves to a healthy situation. And then perhaps we will create a conflict in the family. This is very normal.
So at this time we can also resolve these problems. How to resolve them?
A practitioner should use a flexible Consciousness.
Don’t be fixed and use the flexible Consciousness to make family members happy. Now we can use Wisdom to help our family members understand what we are doing and also we can find some other ways to make them happy.
Some people who have serious problems, long-term problems, those people need to save more energy. And focus on their practice.
But we don’t create a conflict with the family members. First we should ask our family members to support us and help them understand us. This is very important.
If we simply think, ‘now I am sick, I have a problem, don’t disturb me,’ of course we will create a conflict with the family. But if we discuss it with the family and tell our partners: ‘I love you but now I want to improve my body, my health, the situation. If I become stronger, then I can do more and help you more and help our family more.’
If we use happy emotions and talk like this, then others will understand us better and support us.
Especially when there are some serious problems, or for young people, while they need to avoid the sexual life for a period of time, this is a real issue. This should be discussed.
We use Love.
Make more Joy!
Some people’s bodies are very weak and they need more energy to resist the problems the illness brings. These types of people need to stop the sexual life for a period of time to help the body recover.
Of course young people have lots of energy but if they also have a physical problem, these kinds of people, if they have a sexual life …, then don’t have too much sexual activity, then just have some sexual life.
The excitement of the sexual life can also activate the energy and it flows better. And also this can encourage the heart and to a certain level increase the immune system and make it stronger.
But, you know, if people do not know how to handle the sexual life and use the sexual activity too much, both young people and older people…, if they use the sexual life too much and always think the sexual life is good…
Like for example in Western Medicine they say: ‘Sexual life can improve your life quality’. If we think like that and every day engage in sexual activity, many sexual activities, you know, like that…, then people will waste too much energy, more than activate energy. More than improve the immune system. And then, gradually people will become weaker and weaker.
I suggest healthy and strong people can have a sexual life, but do not do it too much. We need to save the energy from the sexual life and change this to the ’Consciousness life’. Raise the level of the energy.
If people can love each other ‘Heart to Heart’, they are enjoying pure Consciousness from each other. Then the wife has a happy Consciousness, very wise, always taking care of the husband, or the partner…, and the other one is also very wise, very flexible…And then they can be giving a lot of joy to each other. Give the Joy of Consciousness to others!
So then the partners, or husband and wife,they will love each other from the Consciousness level. This level also can go deep inside the heart. So this level only gives us the most positive support. And then we will not lose energy.
Of course for those who practice ZQG, we do not forbid the sexual life. It just depends on people’s different situations and how to take care of ‘Life’. Let ‘Life’ stay in the balanced state, in the healthy state.
So after we practice ZQG in the family, the partners do not just think, ‘sexual life is not good, don’t have sexual activity with me…’.
The husband, wife, or partners should make more Joy, from the Consciousness level. Give more good information, more positive information to the Other.
If the Other is asking for more sexual activity, we can use our Wisdom and transform this. Maybe we can give a kiss, or use other ways to let the Other’s heart feel satisfied. This will all depend on our Wisdom. And gradually, the husband, the wife or our partner will respect us. And feel,’ you are a very good Heart, you have good Compassion’ and they feel that we really love them.And this kind of Love already raises everything to a higher level, more than the physical level.
You know, when we depend on the physical level of sexual life, it can give people some excitement from the hormones. The feelings are transformed by the hormones. People may feel comfortable. It influences the Consciousness level. But that is not in the level of Consciousness.
And after a while, if they have no longer sexual activity, then people experience ‘no Love’. Not the real,’ Heart to Heart’ Love. Because it is not real ‘Heart to Heart’ love, when it depends on the physical body feeling love. If this real feeling is not there and there is no longer sexual activity, then people will separate, they do not love each other.
If there is real Love for each other, from the Heart, then the sexual life becomes not so important. People can have it but they do not need it, if they love from the Heart. And then they also want each other to become healthier.
If the one partner thinks, ‘now you need to be more healthy, you have problems, you should save energy and use it to improve your situation’, if they think like this and support their other partner, then this is a very good partner, wife or husband.
If the husband, wife or partner knows that the Other has serious problems and that the sexual life can cause harm to the Other, and they still want sexual activity, then this kind of partner is very selfish. It means this kind of husband, or wife, or partner does not really like, or love the Other.
You know, if Love is Love and it has come from the Heart, Love wants others to become better and have a good life. Love is giving, not asking for things or controlling.
But people usually think that attachment is love. In fact this is a distorted love, a ‘fixated’ love. This kind of love is not real Love.
So we need to see through this. What is real Love? Practitioners need to see through it.
First from our Heart, we love others. Love our husband, wife or partner, love the children, love others…
Even when we practice qigong and focus on improving our health and situation, we should tell and discuss this with our husband, wife, or partners and children. And help them to understand us. This is the first important thing.
And we should always do some things, other things, not just sexual activity but other things to help the partner feel good. And do things for the children also. In doing this, we need to use our Wisdom. For example, when the husband, wife or partner comes back to the home, after the whole long day of hard work and they need to have a rest… Then we can quickly make a cup of tea, give a hug, give a kiss and make good food. Or we can tell an interesting story.
And we use our happy emotions, our happy Consciousness. We make a happy atmosphere. We can even give a massage and let the Other feel; ‘oh, real good ’. Yuh. We can find a lot of ways, hmm…,yuh.
Sexual life? Later, after sexual activity, people often feel not so good, no energy. It is the same for both. That moment, they feel good…, but after that…, usually people feel less energy. Even all sort of emotions come…
To change life, transform life and raise the family life to a Higher Level, we should use our Wisdom to create a harmonious family Qifield and Consciousness field….”
To be continued
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